Toxic people can be found in our family, neighborhood, or friends. They can be anyone who spreads negativity and brings us down. However, we have to learn to deal with them without getting hurt ourselves or hurting others. In this article, we will discuss how Buddha dealt with a toxic person and what we can learn from his teachings.
One day, a man came to Buddha and started yelling and insulting him. He was cursing Buddha, but Buddha remained calm and didn’t react. He smiled and looked at the person kindly throughout the conversation. After some time, the person stopped yelling, and Buddha asked him a question that had nothing to do with the situation. He asked if the person gets visitors to his home and treats them with food and drinks. The person answered yes, and Buddha asked what would happen if they didn’t accept what he had given. The person laughed and said he would eat the food himself. Buddha then said the same goes for this situation. He would not accept the rude and harsh words, and they belonged to the person who gave them. The person was amazed, and his anger cooled down. Buddha then preached his teachings to the person, and he became his follower.
Lessons from Buddha’s Teachings
Buddha’s teachings offer us valuable lessons on how to deal with toxic people. Firstly, we need to put on a positive smile on our face and never show our sad or angry face to them. If we show them our hurt, we are providing them with what they want because they came to hurt us. Therefore, we need to be positive, bigger, and better than them. We need to be motivated by virtues and morals and be the best version of ourselves.
Secondly, we shouldn’t try to talk back to them or prove them wrong. We need to listen to what they say and set apart the person from their words. Sometimes, they may be yelling at us because of a mistake they think we made, and we need to hear them out. However, we need to remember that their words belong to them, and we should not accept them if they are rude and harsh.
Thirdly, we need to leave behind the toxic person and not care about them. We need to care about what they say and not who they are. It’s essential to set healthy boundaries and protect ourselves from their negativity. We should focus on positive people and things that bring us joy and happiness.
Conclusion
Dealing with toxic people is a challenge, but we can learn from Buddha’s teachings and be the bigger person in toxic situations. We need to be positive, listen to what they say, set healthy boundaries, and leave them behind. Remember, we can’t change people, but we can change our reactions and attitudes towards them. We can choose to be happy and not let toxic people bring us down. Be the best version of yourself and spread positivity and love wherever you go.
